It was fourteen weeks ago this past Saturday that Peyton passed away. It seems like a lifetime ago, yet it seems like it was just yesterday. The pain of her loss is still very fresh. Her physical absence is noticed each and every day. Thoughts of Peyton are at the forefront of my mind all the time.
Ron and I finally had an opportunity to break away from the stress of it all. The week before last, we were in Las Vegas. We left on the Monday and returned the morning of the following Sunday. To say we needed this getaway is an understatement. Las Vegas has historically been our "go to" place when we have needed to get away from reality. We've been 7 or 8 times now. There is probably nowhere on earth further from what is real than Las Vegas. We didn't gamble a dime, but we had a really good time reconnecting and just being with each other. We enjoyed some incredible food {you can read about that HERE}, took in a couple shows, and walked...a lot. All good things must come to an end, as they say. We've been back a week and I feel the stress of life once again weighing very heavily on me. I guess we need to figure out a way to get away more often. Not sure how...but clearly it's very much needed.
I am finding these last few days to be much more difficult than "normal". I'm feeling "off". I was having a hard time figuring it out, but it shouldn't have been that difficult. Wednesday, August 14th will mark 12 years since our son, Jeffrey, was stillborn. After twelve years, you'd think it would be easier. Yes, it has gotten easier coping with anniversaries and holidays over a dozen years, but this year is different. The wounds seem like they have been ripped open once again with the loss of Peyton adding to the number of children we have in heaven {3 if you don't know}.
I am remaining strong in my faith as I trust in God and live with the hope of the promises He makes to each of us. But loss is loss. I think you could have the strongest faith in the world and still feel the incredible pain and sadness associated with the loss of a loved one. I don't question God's motives in creating Peyton the way He did. She had a purpose. I think she still does. But I would give anything for another moment to hold her and tell her I love her again.
School starts a week from today. Peyton passed away towards the end of the last school year. We had so many people coming and going, that it was pretty busy around here. Summer hasn't been filled with the enjoyment we'd hoped for. I thought maybe it would be an opportunity for more bonding and doing things but the truth is we are simply exhausted and worn down from everything that has happened. I have little energy for doing much of anything. Now that school is about to resume, I'm going to have more time on my own than I have in the past few months. I'm concerned about how to occupy my time. I want to add meaningful and purposeful things to my calendar - not just scheduling "things" to fill my time. I'm not looking for an escape, but a way to figure out who I am.
That's another very difficult thing right now. I feel very lost and without a purpose. Yes, I have my family and that, of course, is a purpose. I feel like there should be something out there that is meant for me to do that is bigger than myself. I don't see it. I had it - it was Peyton and she is gone. Still another thing is that, as you might imagine, the number of people who can relate to us are few and far between. I found after miscarriage and stillbirth that you suddenly discovered so many people around you had faced similar challenges in their life. I've yet to suddenly discover someone who has walked in our shoes where Peyton is concerned.
And so life goes. Right now, it's another wave of feeling the weight of loss. There have been better days through this process and there will be better days ahead. This is just a difficult time right now.
As always, I appreciate the love and support that has been shown during this time. Thank you.
